I remember when first realised that some of my affirmations were really like implemented I woke up in the middle of the night and said one of my affirmations to myself, I wasn't worried about a single thing.
I literally woke up in the middle of the night and I was like, “I am incredible”
So, even though I've been saying it for a really long time, and I think this is the other thing that a lot of people are like, well, what if I don't believe my affirmations?
SARAH:
Yeah, I think that I struggled in the beginning because I think I had quite a lot of self doubt, like, my relationship has just broken down when we really started speaking about this, I was in a job that I didn't necessarily want to be in, but I didn't really see a way out at the time.
It's completely changed the way I see everything and the way I feel about myself as well.
CAROLINE:
Yeah, and that's, it isn't like, there won't necessarily be the belief when you start affirming I am incredible.
You're affirming it, but you're not necessarily believing it, but when you repeat that again and again and again eventually, and I've said this to loads of my customers, like, the subconscious part of the brain doesn't have eyes.
So it literally only knows what we're telling it. So if you tell it enough times, “I am incredible.” Eventually, it's going to believe it.
I like to really embody my affirmations as well, like, you know, sometimes I will just repeat them if I'm doing stuff, but one of my favourite affirmations is I am the happiest woman in the world, but when I say it like I really conjure up those feelings being the happiest woman in the world, I've got like, a little visualisation I use along with it.
Another one of my favourite affirmations is “everything is always working in my favour.” so, you know that eventually, whatever it is, whatever situation you're in or whatever you know, self doubt that you're having, it's gonna flip and it's gonna all work itself out and work in your favour.
Our brain loves to seek evidence for whatever we're telling it, So again, that's you know how affirmations can start to shape our world is because if you're telling yourself like, I'm stupid, I'm ugly or you know, things are always going bad.
Your brain will literally be trying to prove you right!
It's the reticular activating system that's like, okay, this is this is what we do here and it starts to shift and change what you see in your reality as well as like manifesting.
SARAH:
Yeah, exactly. But I just think back to the beginning of the year for me so many things have happened to me since I've started doing all of these things with you, like all the techniques and learning all about this. So many things have happened that I just didn't even think we're going to be possible, I've literally had so many things happen… I was in Austria for a week, I'm going to Croatia on Wednesday.
Like these are all like really big holidays and traveling and things that I never ever thought I was going to be able to do. I was always really nervous about not having the Children with me and also that feeling guilty of doing something for myself.
It is really huge. I was always like the yes person, if anybody ever wanted me to do anything for them. I always just used to say yes straight away because I always wanted to be that person that was always there for people and you know was always like the friend that never let anybody down and things like that, but at the same time, even though I was that person for the, for for my friends and family it was massively affected me and my life.
CAROLINE:
And the thing is that people pleasing at your own detriment comes from a place of needing validation and needing people to like you, and the paradox is when you don't need that validation from anyone else.
You don't need other people to like make you feel good then people show up for you more!